Does He Love You Or Lust You? How to Tell the Difference and What to do About It

Published: 21st July 2010
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Have you started wondering, does he love you or lust you? Are you afraid it might be the latter? Do you want to go beyond lust and want him to fall in love with you? Do you think it can happen? First you need to answer the question, "Does he love you or lust you?" and then you will know what to do about it.

There are certain key signs that will tell you whether it's lust or love that's keeping your relationship alive. He may be in love with you, but still always be thinking about sex, so that's not necessarily one of the signs. It's how he behaves before and after sex that you need to think about.

Does he call you up out of the blue after you've been apart for a few days and just has to see you now? When you agree, does he take you straight to the bedroom? If so, that's a pretty good sign that he is feeling lust and not love. If, after you've had sex, he says he has to go, that's a sure sign that it's only lust he's feeling.

If he loves you, he will want to be with you even when he doesn't feel like having sex. He'll call you up just to talk. He'll send you frequent text messages. When he does see you, he'll want to sit down and talk to you. After you have slept together, he'll want to snuggle up and stay close to you.

When you're together, does he always talk about himself and never ask you about your feelings? When he pays you a compliment, is it always about how "hot" you look or how you turn him on? If you're wondering, "Does he love you or lust you," these are signs that the answer is lust.

If he's feeling love, he will be more interested in you than in himself. When he complimets you, it will be about a number of things. He will admire you intellectual capabilities, you sense of style and your sense of humor - all the things that make up the real you and not just the physical exterior.

If you can't answer these questions with a definite "lust" or "love," maybe he's still sitting on the fence. Guys don't fall in love first. They fall in lust. If you want to transform lust into love in his heart, start to divert his mind from sex. Go someplace public with him and have a good time together. Do things with him outdoors that both of you enjoy. That way, it gives him a chance to enjoy your company, not just your body.

What do you think now? Does he love you or lust you?

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This article is contributed by Tina Jones from the Unforgettable Woman Publishing Team. She works together with founder Alexandra Fox and writes dating/relationship articles for women. You can find more about Unforgettable Woman Publishing by visiting their website.

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